The fact that young, wrinkle-free women are turning to a potential lifetime of Botox and other preventative aesthetics speaks volumes about the unattainable appearance demands we place on women, our cultural infatuation with youth, and the sinister pressures we feel to buy our way to self-improvement.
—Jill A. McCorkel
Season three of Orange is the New Black introduced us to a new character, one that you won’t find on listed among the show’s cast or analyzed in any detail on the many blogs devoted to the series. The character in question is Management & Correction Corporation (MCC), the private corporation that receives a contract from the feds to take over day-to-day operations of Litchfield prison.
The stigma of meeting someone online is gone, but there is one glaring exception to this acceptance: mail-order marriage. The dislike of mail-order marriage has a complicated history, but while the reasons men and women seek mail-order marriages have changed throughout the centuries, its use as a means to increase one’s marital options and thereby improve one’s situation through marriage has changed very little.
Wrapping my head and heart around the murder of 49 queer people while they were dancing in a gay bar in Orlando, beneath the familiar numb feeling accompanying another story of loss, horror, and violence, is survivor’s guilt. I feel an enormous teary affection for all us struggling to digest the consequences of so many queer lives lost in the very place that is supposed to be our haven, and by someone who, had he allowed it, might so easily have been one of us.